This year when I was making my Christmas Card I realized I haven’t written much at all and figured I better get something on paper; or the computer.
I listened to the audio book “The Power” at the beginning of the year and set an intention to be more positive than fear based or negative and to reach a 55% tipping point of love. I set out by looking for my triggers, the small thought processes that most of us don’t consider and well, it didn’t take long for me to identify a few. If you are looking to reset your feelings and energy level, “The Power” will help you do just that.
So somehow bitching about some of the challenges we face and focusing on the conspiracies behind high gas prices, the cost of new homes in the Vancouver lower mainland or our plummeting dollar just holds so much negativity it’s not worth going there.
I decided to share some of the solutions I came up with that might help you do some shifting of your own. Listening to the book, reminded me of things that I already know, but it also got me excited about creating shifts and experimenting with the concepts. Those of you who know me, realize I don’t just read something and believe. I am a “prove it” kind of gal. My life is usually has several experiments going on at once. It’s how I learn, prove theories, grow, adapt my work and improve.
The first thing I did was create a vision board that had affirmations and photos that I put on my desktop. The slides change every seconds which is just long enough for me to say the affirmation and feel what I am creating.
So I began to observe. Trying to remain in a state of love 24/7 is quite challenging in our time. The pace of everyday life is faster and with that comes more triggers. As I observed myself and my thoughts in certain situations, I realized that standing in line-ups generated a ton of negative thoughts. Not bad ones, but negative all the same. The idea of reaching a greater tipping point of love is to be love. I found myself thinking things like:
- “I always choose the slow line.”
- “Doesn’t anyone work, why are they all shopping now?”
- Judging what I consider to be others poor food choices.
- Focusing on screaming children and wondering how much sugar they were jacked up on.
- Wondering what took people so long to pack their groceries.
So it hit me, yikes this is all so negative and judging, WHAT…I needed a new strategy.
- So now when I am forced to stand in line, I do several things. I begin going through my gratitude list, starting with the fact that I have the time and money and privilege to be in a store buying what I need or want.
- I smile and begin sending love and blessings to those around me.
- I chat to those little screaming tikes and get them laughing, giving the parent a break.
- I practice random acts of kindness if possible.
- I send grace and blessings to those who appear to be in need.
Turns out my shopping experiences are much more pleasant and I meet some pretty interesting people now.
There are 3 quotes from “The Power” that correspond with what I’m doing and they are:
- “Life isn’t happening to you; life is responding to you.”
- “Many people don’t know about the power of good feelings, and so their feelings are reactions or responses to what happens to them. They have put their feelings on automatic pilot, instead of deliberately taking charge of them.”
- “Every single second is an opportunity to change your life, because in any moment you can change the way you feel.”
One of my other triggers is driving, and I do believe that to be one for many of us, lol. It’s that same thing for me about time, and business. I live in one of the fastest going cities in Canada; last time I read the statistics, Surrey acquires 1800 new residents a month, yes that’s right, a month! And you got it, they are all not as good drivers as me, hahaha. knowing the driving experience can thrust me into a negative spiral is 3/4 of the battle. Now when I get in my can I repeat these words, “I have time, I can enjoy a relaxing experience in my car.” I let people in line, I focus on kindness for new drivers, after all I was one too, I sing, I do my affirmations and I get where I’m going in record time feeling terrific. I’m still not perfect, but I’m at least 70% better.
Let’s see, another area I chose to change was how I felt about paying for things. Instead of focusing on, “I shouldn’t buy this, I don’t really need it, I should save my money, I can’t afford this, blah, blah, blah.”
I choose to say, “I have more than enough money for the things I desire and I make great buying choices.” and “I am grateful that money flows to me from so many places, sources and people.” And…now it does!
So remember, one of the secrets of having the life you want is by tipping the scale toward love and away from negativity. When anything good happens to you in your day, give thanks. It doesn’t matter how small it is, say thank you.
These are just a few examples of what I changed up, there are more of course; in conclusion, I would have to say that my experiment on tipping the scales more toward love was successful and made an obvious difference in my life.